You want a relationship, but why won’t God bless you with one?
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It’s not time yet.
“Trust in the Lord with all your heart, do not lean on your own understanding, acknowledge Him in all your ways and He will make your paths straight” (Proverbs 3:5-6). God has a plan and a purpose for your life. He knows everything is going on in your future, and has the perfect timing for everyone that will enter your life. You must not go against His plan! For example, there may be someone you’re very attracted to, but you know they’re not a Christian. Why are you dating them? God tells us not to be unequally yoked (2 Cor. 6:14); therefore, getting caught up with an unbeliever is a big mistake. Singleness at times can be lonely, but going outside God’s principles in any way will only bring you more heartbreak. God does not want you to go after these people, because He has someone much better in store. You just need to be patient.
During this time, there are other things you can do to make yourself even better. Instead of wasting time looking for someone to be with, spend some time perusing Jesus. If you were married you would want to spend quality time with your spouse, so why don’t you enjoy quality time with our Jesus? Carve time in your daily life for intentional time with God.
God isn’t, Satan is.
Satan will do whatever he can to prevent a Christian marriage from developing because he wants to bring people far away from Christ. A great marriage can have the opposite effect, where the couple love of God only gets deeper and stronger. Marriage brings glory to God, so it’s no wonder Satan would want to sabotage it. Spiritual warfare is something to consider if you struggle in your relationships with others.
Does Satan whisper in your ear frequently, telling you to give in to temptation? Satan cannot make you do anything. Rather than try to overpower us, he works in more subtle ways. The devil’s desire is to tempt us to sin and then to shame us for sinning. Maybe he tells you it’s no big deal to lie to someone, or not an issue to start talking to someone who is bad for you. Your inability to not give into sin might be ruining some of the great things ahead of you. You must reject what Satan says and embrace what the word of God says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness” (1 John 1:9).
You are lowering your standards.
A bad marriage is infinitely worse than your worst day as a single person. Till death do us part is a very, very long time (Proverbs 20:25; Ecclesiastes 5:1-2). There are a ton of people who were sure they needed nothing more than to get married, only to quickly realize once married how wrong they were. Instead of taking things slowly, they are quick to jump on anyone that gives them attention. They push standards aside and justfy the bad relationship.
If you want to be rash, impulsive, or move forward without truely knowing who they are then don’t be mad at God when you are married without happiness. Don’t marry anyone who is not already well married to Jesus. If they are not faithful to Him, they won’t be faithful to you (2 Corinthians 6:14). This should be the highest standard!
When you desire a relationship so badly you begin to idolize it, you ruin your chances of having one at all. God knows your hearts intention, and will try to stop anything that will separate you from Him. If you are putting a relationship before God, and a poor one at that, He will know. When you have low standards and try to make anyone work for you, because you want a relationship that desperately, you are just setting yourself up for failure.
God doesn’t grant every promise.
The Lord promises us peace and joy with Him. However, He does not promise us a removal of all desires every time we ask for something while we are here on earth. Desiring to be married does not mean you will marry anymore that desiring to be healthy (or believing you will be healthy) does not mean you are going to get healthy. It doesn’t hurt, but it doesn’t guarantee. There are plenty of people who want something God is perfectly okay with who will never receive it. Just because we want a relationship and a marriage right now, doesn’t mean God is going to give it to you. God might not take away the desire you have, but by spending time with Him we learn how to master our minds. We are able to control our feelings and desires a little bit better to live with joy, peace and fullness of life despite our circumstance (Philippians 4:19). In order to control your desires, spend time with God each day. Pray to Him, read the Bible, or fill out a devotional. These will open lines of communication with Him so you can better understand why He is choosing to keep you single for the time being.
It’s okay to ache for a partner—it’s even normal. However, God wants to be enough while you wait. He wants you to lean on Him when you feel lonely, and feel comforted by His presence. He wants you to be happy exactly where you are in life, and to meet you in the middle of your emotional longing. Give your trust into God, and His plan for your future will reveal itself in due time. Being single is not a curse, and it’s a time you should enjoy and appreciate.