A visit to the grave of a loved one respects the memory of that person. It is a way of showing that this life had an unforgettable significance on Earth. Some people view the whole process as spiritual. Being on holy ground is a source of comfort and peace; a place where meditation and prayer seem natural.
While you may not hear their answers, you can still talk to a lost loved one. You’ ve seen it in movies and on TV- it’ s real. People want to feel the connection. They want to talk to the missing person. What are they doing? They went to the cemetery and had a conversation with them. It is a natural, and sensible way to grieve. So, if you want to have that conversation, go do it. You will feel better.
I once remember reading that each of us has two deaths. First when we pass through the world. Our families and friends do remember us for a time. But with each passing generation, our memory becomes darker. In time we are completely forgotten, and that is our second death.
By giving yourself time to visit the cemetery where your loved one is buried, you are paying your respects. It is a way of honoring who they were and all that they have done for you. It’ s funny how we run around during the holidays to buy presents and go to parties but we often ignore this simple act of paying our respects and thanking those who helped us shaped our lives.
Christians are taught that when you die; if you have not made a choice to accept Jesus as your Lord and Savior, you are going to hell! Due to this particular belief, many Christians believe that there is no reason to go to the graves of their loved ones; not even respectfully.
To my knowledge of the Bible, there is nothing in the Bible that requires us to visit the rest of our loved ones. There is nothing wrong with wanting to go to the cemetery out of respect and raising the flag at the grave of a veteran who has given his life or visiting a family member and who immediately remembers the memories. Maybe it’ s something you have to do to honor their memory. They obviously do not communicate with you. The Bible is clear that the dead are not in contact with the living.
While it may be comforting to believe that our dead loved ones are still alive, it is comforting to know that the truth of the Bible is comforting. This is simply stated, that God will raise the dead to life in the flesh. As Jesus himself said in John 5: 28- 30, ” all those in the memorial tombs will hear [Jesus’ ] voice and come out. ”
Many Bible Verses About Visiting The Cemetery:
1 Corinthians 15: 51- 54 ESV
” And, look! I tell you a mystery. We will not all fall asleep, but we will all be changed, in a moment, in an instant, by the last trumpet. For the trumpet will sound, and the dead will be raised imperishable, and we shall be changed. For this corruptible must put on incorruption, and this mortal must put on immortality. When this corruptible shall have put on incorruption, and this mortal shall have put on immortality, then shall come to pass the saying that is written, Death is swallowed up in victory. ”
Revelation 20: 11- 13 ESV
” And I saw a great white throne and the one seated on it. Earth and sky fled from his presence, and there was no place for them. And I saw the dead, the great and the small, standing before the throne, and scrolls were opened. Then another book was opened, which is the book of life. And the dead were judged out of those things written in the scrolls according to their deeds. And the sea gave up the dead which were in it; and death and hell delivered up the dead which were in them: and they were judged every man according to their works. ”
Isaiah 45: 22- 25
” Turn to me and be saved, all you ends of the earth. Because I am God, and there is no other. I have sworn by myself; Out of my mouth proceeded to come forth justice, saying: ‘ To me every knee will bend down, and every tongue will swear by the truth. ‘ he shall come, and all who were angry with him shall be ashamed. In the Lord shall all the seed of Israel be justified, and shall glory. “