Worst mistake in life ending up in wrong marriage, you’ll be hurt forever, choosing a wrong person will frustrate your life, a lot of regrets and emotional wreck leading you to unhappiness in marriage.
Marriage is best describe as EXPECT UNEXPECTED, marriage is full of up and down, base on experience via counseling, i have realized many married people having problems in marriage saw their partner with such bad attitude, they end up believing they can change their partner in marriage, many married people believed they’ll change their partner bad attitude in marriage that’s how many married people end up with a cheater.
HOW TO AVOID ENDING UP IN MARRIAGE WRONG
1. Choose wisely
2. Date for right reason
3. Think about your future not what’s happening today
4. Don’t cope with what you can’t endure in next 50years plus
5. Be careful with your decision
6. Don’t marry someone out of pity
7. Don’t marry someone because your parents or family members are forcing you
8. Seek God approval
9. Don’t go into marriage if you not ready
10. Marry who you love and who truly love you
11. Build yourself for marriage
12. Don’t overlook cheating
13. Avoid hot tempered person if you can’t cope
14. Don’t marry who beat and abuse you
15. Don’t marry who did not really love you
When people asking you out, who you accept matters to you, don’t accept people in your life you can’t have future with them. If you start dating those you don’t want in your life, somehow you may end up getting married to the person. When you choosing who to marry, check them, watch their characters, watch how they’re reacting to issues – how they’re reacting to issues that’s the person you getting married to, watch their actions – actions speak louder than words.
DATE FOR RIGHT REASON
When you going into relationship with wrong reasons outcome always horrible, dating someone for money, material things, benefits and s e x that’s wrong.
Some marriage start from dating to courtship to marriage, you have date for right reason to be able to end up with right person.
When you dating for money and material things you’ll always gonna choose wrong people, you will date those who can offer what wanted, those people who can offer what you wanted may be wrong people, if you marry for money and material things, it may favour you or destroy you.
THINK ABOUT YOUR FUTURE NOT WHAT’S HAPPENING TODAY
Marriage is not dating, marriage is a long time project, think about what’s happening today, are you gonna be happy with the person who treating you badly today, cheating on you, are you believing the person can change – what if person did not change, can you endure such torture and pain.
You can’t change anyone, you can’t make someone to change either, people change because they want to change. Be careful what you wishing for and believing to avoid ending up in wrong marriage.
DON’T COPE WITH WHAT YOU CAN’T ENDURE IN NEXT 50YEARS PLUS
How to avoid ending up in wrong marriage, someone claim they love you but cheating on you or beating up or abusing you or treating you badly or making your life miserable or hurting your feelings or not caring about you.
People find it difficult and hard to change, if you can’t cope and endure any of their bad attitude in next 50years plus, once still dating, you have right to quit the relationship.
BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR DECISION
Marriage is about decision, making up your mind to settle down with someone, you have to be careful about it, choose wisely and make good choice.
Don’t make unnecessary decision because making wrong decision will land you into wrong marriage.
DON’T MARRY SOMEONE OUT OF PITY
As I said – be careful with your decision, don’t marry anyone out of pity, if you believe someone doesn’t need to be in your future, take serious decision about it and be ready to embrace outcome of your decision.
DON’T MARRY SOMEONE BECAUSE YOUR PARENTS OR FAMILY MEMBERS ARE FORCING YOU, DON’T MARRY OUT OF PRESSURE
Remember, if things goes wrong in your relationship, your parents and family members will not suffer with you, only you will face your marriage, make your choice if things goes wrong you’ll easily endure knowing fully everything totally your decision. Don’t allow your parents and family members lead you into a wrong arm who will treat you badly in future.
SEEK GOD APPROVAL
Don’t overlook God, you need God mercy and grace in choosing right partner. You have to pray hard, if you single reading this – always pray ask God for your husband not boyfriend, God doesn’t support boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, ask for your husband, if someone want to marry you – pray to confirm if he or she right person for you.
DON’T GO INTO MARRIAGE IF YOU NOT READY
You can’t never give your best in what you not ready for, if your partner not ready for commitment, they’ll never give their best, someone should go into marriage when they’re fully ready for it. Getting married when you not mentally strong enough for it can sometimes backfired.
MARRY WHO YOU LOVE AND WHO TRULY LOVE YOU
I will keep saying it, not about loving someone, it’s about someone loving you back that matters, if you love someone and they not loving you back, surely you’ll be getting hurt, if you married who doesn’t feel anything for you, they’ll treat you badly, who truly loves you will not like hurting you and your feelings.
BUILD YOURSELF FOR MARRIAGE
Some girls only good for dating not good for marriage, many guys not good enough for marriage. You need have something to offer to your partner and kids, some people has nothing to offer, build yourself, be a good woman of dignity and respect, have a good character and be a role model to your kids and society.
DON’T OVERLOOK CHEATING
Getting married to a cheater, seriously you ready in a wrong marriage, dating someone who cheat on you, disrespecting you and doesn’t care how you feel. Run Now – if you get married to your cheater partner, they’ll surely continue in marriage, don’t think he’ll change in marriage, they’ll not change, if someone cheating on you during dating, there’s big chance they will continue where stop in marriage, be warned.
AVOID HOT TEMPERED PERSON IF YOU CAN’T COPE
If you can’t cope with hot tempered person, avoid them, if you end up getting married to the person, expect unexpected. Hot temper cannot be controlled.
DON’T MARRY WHO BEAT YOU OR ABUSE YOU
Yeah, you want to avoid ending up in wrong marriage, what are you doing with a man who beats you up, abusing you all the time, treating you like nobody. Are you trying to tell me you love him, you love him but does he love you?
Be wiser dear.
DON’T MARRY WHO DIDN’T REALLY LOVE YOU
What matters is love, love is beautiful, love is everything in marriage, to avoid ending up in wrong marriage, you really need someone that loves you unconditionally the way you deserved. True love between couples make couples treat each other with respect and love. When someone loves you, no cheating, no beating, no unnecessarily bad treatment, no bad intentions, no malice, no regrets and no frustration. To avoid wrong marriage, you need God and someone that love you back, not someone who doesn’t love you. Marriage is 100/100 embrace your partner.