Dating and relationships are ideally supposed to be a two way street where each contribute their quota to make it a loving one.
But the reality is a far cry from the ideal situation. Men are not only naturally expected to financially sponsor the relationship but also women expect their man to bear the cost of their personal expenses too.
The case is prevalent especially in African homes and one lady seem to be taking a stand against the trend, pointing out the pressures men face that their women need to help or at least, not add their own load to it.
In a Facebook post, Adjoaa Boateng, compared the situation with her native Ghanaian women and her experience in other cultures in the US.
She concluded that Dating someone’s son doesn’t mean he should pay for all of a ladys expenses. She further adviced that women rather work hard to sort themselves out because men already have too much pressure on them.
“I am so tired of hearing Ghanaian women complain about Ghanaian men being stingy. Dating someone’s son doesn’t mean they should pay for all your expenses. I noticed that this mindset only comes from us Ghanaian women and I do not blame them but rather our forefathers back then. Women are capable of doing anything they set their mind to. After living in America for 16 years i learned that the reason why most of the women abroad are even more successful than men is because they work hard and they do not rely on men. I think if Africans can do the same then men will respect us. You can’t put your burden on a young man who also has his own dreams and aspirations to fulfil. Men actually go through a lot of things more than us women. The only difference is men just do not talk about it. Men are actually under more pressure to succeed if y’all do not know. Thank you. Sincerely someone who honestly understand both genders.” She wrote